@the source homepage Issue #38
Bar and Bat Mitzvah in Israel: The Ultimate Family Sourcebook,
by Deborah Rosenbloom and Judith Isaacson
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upon request by e-mail.

Double-Pronged Mitzvah

7: Gifts and More Gifts

6: Ben's Teffilin Tiyul

5: Bar Mitzvah Gibush

Bar Mitzvah in the Wake of Terrorism

4: The Magic Age of 13

3: Ben's Bar Mitzvah

2: Ben's Bar Mitzvah

Lila's Bat Mitzvah. 1

New Online Diary: Ben's Bar Mitzvah

Online Diary of a Bat Mitzvah Planning Parent

Post Bat Mitzvah Reflections

C. Delman
Burnt Bread and Chutney


Burnt Bread and Chutney is the story of Carmit Delman's experiences growing up as an outsider in a Jewish-Indian home in the American midwest and Israel. The child of an Indian Jewish mother, part of Bene Israel, and a father born in the U.S. of Eastern Europe parents, Delman seeks out her past to find where she fits in. Delman's writing demonstrates her respect for the past and her intrigue for the life her maternal family left behind when they emigrated from India. Delman weaves a story about life in India through her memories of her Nana-bai and simultaneously tells her own story of growing up  -- her clothes, her foods, and even the lingering smell of the spices that are ever present in and Indian home -- all made her an outsider.
 
A striking aspect of the book is the way in which Delman writes about her parents' determination to create a strong, well-rooted family in Israel as well as in Ohio. Delman manages to describe the pace and goals of her family life, without being overly judgmental it. Her tone leads the reader to believe that while she may not have made the same decisions had she been the parent, she understands the motivation behind the decisions and respects her parents for giving their children the best that they could.

@The Source Israel had a chance to interview Carmit Delman, below is a copy of the interview:

Q: You write that you were conscious of being ``different" from an early age. It appears to have been a motivating factor in your self-image. Were your siblings as focused on the aspects of your family life and heritage that differentiated you from the communities in which you were raised? Were your parents aware of how you felt? Did this impact your family life?

A: ``That consciousness--like this book--is really a reflection of my individualpersonality and quirks. If my parents or siblings sat down and wrote their own stories, those would be very different books, demonstrating entirely different perspectives on how we fit into the world. I cannot speak for them. But I do think that they were often aware that I myself sometimes struggled while growing up, and they were, naturally, kind and patient with me.''

Q: Was writing the book cathartic? How so?

A: ``The book was cathartic in that, as a writer, I have many stories to tell. But in order to tap into them, I first needed to get through this one, because it had been sitting at the forefront of my imagination all along. It was also a wonderful opportunity at this young age to look at the lines of my life and to have to think about them.''

Q: What is your overall message to readers?

A: ``I think the overall message here is not particularly Indian or Jewish. Some may try to read it as an exotic story, but that is not the intention at all. Rather it is a universal story of growing up and loving your family and making peace.''

Q: Did writing the book help you to understand your parents' decisions?

A: ``Writing this book did allow me to understand my parents' decisions -- so that I see the frictions described in my youth with much more sense and comprehension. This was also probably a product of simply growing up.''

Q: What are your interests? What do you do in your spare time?

A: ``In my spare time, I love to travel. In fact, I just came back from a trip through some of the southern states here in America, promoting my book. I like to dance and run, and to bake and hike. I love spending time with my family.''

Q: Do you visit Israel?

A: ``As I have been quite busy with work, I haven't visited Israel in a handful of years, but before that I would go back every year or two. And I'm hoping to come again very soon.''

Q: Are you working on another book?

A: ``I am currently working on a novel. It is set about
two thousand years ago in ancient Israel, and requires a lot of intricate but very interesting research. I'm enjoying the process a great deal.''


Interview and review by Michele Kaplan-Green

Burnt Bread and Chutney


















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